I don’t know a single mom who hasn’t been overwhelmed by motherhood at some point on their journey. It’s just a part of the job. Motherhood is so stinkin’ hard sometimes! And when you’re dealing with children who don’t know how to control their emotions, it can be hard to keep your own emotions under control.
Luckily, there are a lot of things you can do when you are feeling overwhelmed. These tips and tricks are a great way to decompress and get your emotions in check.
6 Tips & Tricks to Help You Remain Calm When You’re Feeling Overwhelmed by Motherhood
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1. Take Time For Yourself
It’s incredible what just a tiny bit of “me time” can do for your sanity. It gives you the chance to hit the reset button and jump back into motherhood with a calmer mindset.
For instance, if you’re at home with the kids allll day, you get to the point where your kid drops a macaroni noodle on the floor, and you just break down because you just swept and mopped, and you are so over cleaning.
It’s at that point that you just need a little break. And honestly, say your break is going to the gym or something, you will end up missing them! You’ve desperately wanted a break all day, and then on your break, you miss them.
This is why you need that me time! When you get back from your break, you are ready for hugs and kisses and stories and macaroni on the floor!
Taking one small break a day to have some me time will make you a BETTER mom!
2. Find Some Mom Friends
Mom friends are so beneficial for so many reasons. First, it is a powerful thing to have friends who really get you and can relate to your struggles every day. Just venting to that person can be enough to feel better. Venting to your husband might not be as beneficial because they don’t get it. And how could they? They don’t live it every day like your mom friends do.
It’s also nice having mom friends because your kids then have friends too. And most of the time, if your kids are playing with other kids, you get a nice little break!
It can also just be nice to talk to another adult sometimes. It can feel lonely and isolating when you don’t get to spend time with friends or have adult interactions.
If you want mom friends but aren’t in the meet-up kind of mood, look on Facebook groups for moms and find one that resonates with you.
3. Practice Positive Self Talk
How you talk about yourself, your life, and everything around you dramatically affects your attitude. Happiness is a choice, even though it doesn’t feel like it sometimes.
If you tell yourself that you can do this, that you are a good mom because good moms are not perfect, you will enjoy motherhood a lot more than if you put yourself down the whole time. Because at this point, you’re not only frustrated with your kids but with yourself as well.
Try using these Powerful Positive Affirmations for Moms to help get you started on feeling better about yourself and your parenting.
4. Take A Deep Breath Before You Speak
If you take a breath before you speak, sometimes all it takes is that second to help you respond better. After my daughter has said “mom” for the 47th time while I’m in the middle of a conversation with someone, it’s really easy for me to just snap at her and tell her she needs to wait until I’m done talking.
But, if I take a breath, it’s just enough time for me to adjust my tone and ask her nicely to be patient. Not only do you feel better about the way you responded, but your child is more likely to listen because they feed off of and mirror your emotions and behaviors.
Becoming a calmer, happier mom who can respond to their child in a way they won’t feel guilty for is powerful! That’s one of the many things you can learn from this 30 Day Be A Better Mom Challenge. Nothing will make you enjoy motherhood more than feeling proud of yourself for being the best mom you can be!
5. Practice Gratitude
No matter how hard your day, no matter how many times you’ve cried, yelled, or even cursed, you can ALWAYS find something to be grateful for even if it’s as simple as being grateful that the sun came out that day.
You will be amazed at how much happier you will be if you can find a few things to be grateful for every day. It will completely change your outlook on life for the better.
One way to apply this is by waking up and listing three things you’re grateful for in your life. And then, before bed, list three things you are grateful for from that day, even if it’s that you didn’t sell your child on eBay.
I challenge you to try this and see how it can change your life. You can check out this in-depth guide to gratitude journaling.
6. Do Something That Motivates You
It can be life-changing to do things that motivate you to feel better, do better, be better, etc. Set your goals, whatever they may be, and find something that can help motivate and educate you to achieve those goals.
For instance, maybe your goal is just to stop yelling, so you can find something on gentle parenting. Perhaps you want to exercise. You could find a program or accountability group.
Some great places to find motivational resources are:
- TED talks
- Books (including audio and ebooks)
- Facebook groups
- Instagram accounts
It can also be helpful to find an accountability partner or someone with similar goals and interests to help you stay motivated.
When you’re feeling overwhelmed by motherhood, what are you going to do?
We hope that some of these ideas can help you calm the chaos you find yourself in during your journey through motherhood! We would love to hear some of the things you do to decompress when you are overwhelmed. Let us know in the comments below.